9.12.2008

Ugh, work...

And for the second week in a row, I have 22 hours at the 2nd job, bringing my weekly total to 62 hours... and hence the return of my arch-nemesis, PermaHeadache! Seriously, my brain is aching (hold your snarky comments about how "its thinking, go with it" please...clearly I have an attitude of my own). The girl who used to do the schedule left and there is someone new, who clearly, I need to have a little chat with. Geez, I bet this isn't a conversation they have very often "Mr. Schedule-Writer, I need LESS hours please..."

Also, I am having a dilemma of sorts. I am really struggling about the stupid invitations. On one hand, they are paper products - people are going to lose them and throw them out and so really I don't want to invest too much time/money into them. On the other hand, they are the things that set the tone for the wedding, the first thing people see. And at least before they throw them out, my guests might look and think "wow these look really nice" or "geez, these look like crap." And I want the first one.

Originally I was thinking of doing some pocketfolds on my own - I made a few mock-ups and everything. But in the end, I have limited time (see - first paragraph) and do I really want to put so much into something that will be thrown away? Not really - and it wasn't going to be any cheaper than getting invitations made. Then Joann's started carrying a pocketfold. And its ok. I mean, the whole thing is white, which is not my fave, but I'm sure I could personalize it at least a little bit. Plus, buying them with the 40% off coupon is a huge perk. But then I found the cardandpockets.com website and thought, "oh, no coupon, a little more $$, but it could be exactly how I want it..." So I guess I have to think about it. Have a little chatski with my mom.

So glad today is Friday!! Tenative plans this weekend include an appt with the floral dept at Wegmans, cleaning/laundry (we'll see what actually gets done here), hanging out with my long lost friend Tracy, who I haven't see in ages, to watch some cheesy movies and relax, plus a trip to a bridal show and hopefully getting some huge checks accomplished.

Enjoy it!

9.11.2008

**Remembering**

Today is the 7th anniversary of 9/11/01, a day that changed our nation forever. There were planes, disaster, smoke, devastation, ash, twisted metal, and out of it all, heroes. It's so strange to think that it's been 7 years since that day. It has affected so much of how we live our daily lives.

I don't want to pretend that I have all sorts of insight or intelligent things about this, but it is like our generation's defining moment, the thing that teachers will have our kids asking us, "Where were you when...?" like I had to ask my parents, "Where were you when Kennedy was shot?" or (for those of us in WNY) "Where were you in the Blizzard of '77?" So this is what I will tell my kids:

I was a junior in high school. I remember I was in my French class, and we were taking a practice Regents exam, to guage what we would need to learn and work on for the big test at the end. We had a new principal that year, and he was ALWAYS breaking over on the intercom, with random thoughts and congratulations, whenever the whim struck him. So when he interrupted class (for the 2nd time that morning), I rolled my eyes and thought, "Now what?"

And then he told us what had happened - a plane had flown into the first tower and we were all to turn on the news. We watched in horror as we saw that now there were two planes, and then as the first tower fell and the tv personalities struggled for words. My friend sitting next to me had been in those those same towers less than a month earlier on her trip to NYC. She started to cry and I held her hand.

We live almost 8 hours from NYC, but at an all-girls school, it was a popular destination. Classes continued - what could we do but continue on? - but many of the teachers instead held discussions about what was going on, different theories on the news.

At home, I was glued to the broadcasts, not wanting to watch, but needing to know more. There had to be an explanation. Who could have done this? I was worried that there would be more to come. We live near an air force base, a national landmark and a huge international crossing site, and people were scared. The thing I remember most vividly is seeing people in some country in the Middle East, dancing and singing at what had happened, and I think that made me feel the most sad out of all the things I saw that day.

Life moved on, flags at half-mast. I got my first job the very next day. There were vigils and also problems - what is known to the nation as the Buffalo 6, is know to WNYers as the Lackawanna 6, an area with a high middle eastern population. Prejudices surfaced, ones people hadn't even realized they had. But things had changed.


Now, even 7 years later, I can't stop myself from reading people's accounts, and looking at the captivating and devastating images taken on that day, and the days the followed. But I also remember how people rushed to give blood, standing in lines for hours because it was what they could do to help. My uncle, a fire fighter, took a group of men to NYC to help out where they could, and to attend the memorials of their fellow fire fighters who hadn't made it.

I know I will remember this forever.

Shopping last night...

...was not the success that one might have hoped for. We didn't end up getting ANYTHING! Kara tried on about a million things, pretty much whatever I had grabbed throughout the different stores, but we didn't end up finding the one. There was a nice dress at JcPenney's that I think was a contender, but we never ended up going back to check it out again. I guess this will be a sloooow transformation of her wardrobe.

At least we learned one thing last night - Kara has NO concept of her size, as she kept telling me to get mediums at NY&Co and they looked about 2 sizes too big on her. But wouldn't try on other sizes. We did find some cute things there, but since my shower is in 9 days, we were really looking for things to wear to that and we didn't find anything for that. Which is kinda stinky as my other two friends/bridesmaids that are going are super-cute dressers and will look cuter than me at my own shower. Crap!

The happy ending to it all was that at this particular mall, there is a Melting Pot (fondue restaurant) and we ended the evening with some yummy melty chocolate and some yummy-scrumbos dippers. And this is why my rear end doesn't fit into my beautiful wedding dress. C'mon Meagan, get some self-control!!

Enjoy it!

9.10.2008

Reading Fiend

Last night I finished yet another book!! This one was called "It Had to Be You" by Sarah Webb, about 3 friends in a fictional Irish village. I really enjoyed it and it was an easy read (must have been, I just started it on Sunday). So that brings me to 3 books in the last 10 days. Watch out!

Today I had a one-on-one with my boss, as it has been about 6 months since I started this job. Seeing as tho I am easily distracted - you know, theknot, blogging, wedding nonsense - I was a little nervy. Actually, whenever I have to meet with a boss I am nervy. I know I have been a little distracted here lately, but that is not to say I am a bad employee. Just have a short attention span, and need something to keep me interested. BUT the point....

My boss <3's me. And told me she thinks I've been doing "an amazing job" and she got "nothing but great comments from others about what an improvement I am and how helpful"....score one, Meagan! At my old job, my boss and I were pretty tight and were friendly but this one is a little more distant, so I wasn't entirely sure what she had been thinking. So this was a wonderful compliment.

Tonight I am hanging out with Kara, my oldest friend. We have know each other since kindergarten - my mom has a home video of me telling her about my first day of school and she asks "Who did you sit with on the bus?" and I said "Today I sat with Julianne but tomorrow I am going to sit with my new friend Kara"... and thus the friendship was born. Its been tougher getting together lately, me with my jobs and her with her bf, but we are usually able to get together once a week or so. Which I love. Today, we are going to look for outfits for my shower - its only 10 days from today!!! For my mother-in-law and her friends and family.

Most of them live about an hour from where I do, and its easier for them to have one out that way. Best part - its at a place called Hawley's Lumberyard, which is actually a really nice restaurant (we've been there before) inside a renovated barn that's been there for approx 100 years. So my friends got the invites and were like, "Um, you shower is in a Lumberyard?!" - Kevin is from the country, so you never really know right? Too funny!!

Anyhow, shower outfits! I need something cute and fall-ish, and Kara is trying to revamp her wardrobe, one piece at a time. Let's see how it goes!

Enjoy it!

9.09.2008

Right between ouch and boiiiiiing

Yesterday my mom and I went to visit a local florist shop. It is a wholesale place and we've heard a lot of good things, both about her flowers and about her prices. I called early in summer (June, I think) to make an appointment to sit down and talk about different ideas for flowers - I was concerned about what would be available, and not cost a fortune, in the dead of winter. When I called, some snarky little girl said "Um, people don't, like, come in until, like, 4 months before their wedding so why don't you, like, call back then."

Customer service is a HUGE thing for me - if I don't like a person, I don't want to give them my business. So this little interaction would have been enough for me to say "No way, Jose" and look elsewhere, but we had heard so many people say nice things, that I gave it the old college try - one more chance.

This time someone who sounded a little older answered the phone and was very nice. She did explain that there really was no hurry to book right away, she would be available in February and besides that, it was true that the owner didn't like to make appointments until it was closer. I also mentioned how I didn't want to have to be shipping flowers from New Zealand but she said there are plenty of things available in Feb and not to worry. So I figured, if there is no hurry, I guess we can just wait.

Finally we called and got an appointment. I brought pictures of my dress, my bridesmaid dresses, swatches of their fabric and knew both my ceremony and reception site - all the info I was told was needed.

We were sent to sit at a table - there were buckets of flowers all around us, we were meeting pretty much in her warehouse - nothing fancy here. She came over to the table (no introduction) and just sat down and said "So you're Meagan" and launched into the questions.

While we were getting ideas about the flowers, she was very helpful and even put a little mini arrangement together, one of each flower, so we could see what they looked like together. I only want bouquets, corsages and boutonnieres...no flowers for centerpieces, no huge arrangements. White and pale pinks for me, white for the girls.

At the end, she brought back the flowers for me, said "Ok, if you do decide to go with us, send $50 check to this address and we'll have a meeting in February" and walked away. No "Thank you for coming down", no "nice to meet you" didn't walk us to the door, just turned and walked away from us. I couldn't believe it. And the estimate....stings a little. People we have met with in regards to the wedding have been so polite and gracious, you know, acting like they WANT our business, I guess I was just a little put off by her lack of manners.

So, for my bouquet, 6 bridesmaid bouquets, Kevin's boutonniere, 6 groomsmen boutonnieres, 4 boutonnieres (our dads, my grandpa and my godfather) and 11 corsages (our moms, my granmothers {2}, my great-aunt, our godmothers, Kevin's aunt, and 3 readers), plus, at my mother's insistence, 2 altar arrangements and 1 blessed mother bouquet, the grand total was $941.78 + tax..... ooh, that smarts.

When I told Kevin, I heard the sharp intake of breath. And I agree...that was a LOT of money for flowers, not even including any centerpieces or the like. And I think I can do WAAAY better. I need to discuss specific # of flowers for bouquets so we can try and get a more reasonable estimate. And I am definitely not going back there. I want to try Wegmans, I may even be able to get a discount because I work there. The store that usually does weddings is across town, but I think we can work it out.

Perhaps I need to pick different flowers for the bridesmaid bouquets. I guess I'm not too picky about them, but I prefer a full rounded, but uniform kind of look. As the example, she put hydrangea and roses with a mini calla (which I could have or not, either way doesn't make a difference to me). I also wanted some stephanotis (my mom had this in her bouquet). I dunno....just seemed like a lot to me. We do have SO many people tho. Someone suggested that instead of giving corsages to the grandmas etc we could just give single flowers. We shall see.

Ooh, on the way home, we stopped at the place where we might do pictures after the wedding. It's VERY nice inside, my only concern is that it may be too dark. Something to discuss with the photographer. The upside to using this place is there is usually a charge, but our friends know that woman who does the bookings and she said we could have it for free. Yahoo!

Enjoy it!!

9.08.2008

Good book

For once, a weekend that wasn't completely packed full...*sigh* it was loverly.

Friday night, I was mysteriously off from Wegmans (which NEVER happens on a Friday) so I wanted to go up to the apartment and hang out with Kevin. Of course, my parents were having massive issues with this as we are not married. And kept saying, "It's KEVIN's apartment" to which I reply "MY name is on the lease. And I paid the rent this month. And the cable! It's my apartment too." But whatever. My dad said there was a good possibility that my stuff would be at the curb when I came home on Sunday (which I knew wasn't true but I was a little concerned about the cut off from wedding funding). But I wanted to go this weekend, because now I won't be able to see Kevin until the weekend of Sept 27 - almost 3 weeks!!

Anyhow, I went to the apartment and it was fine. Kevin made me dinner (one of those pouches that you dump in a pot - chicken parm) and we just relaxed.

Saturday morning we went out to breakfast. Breakfast is my favorite meal and there is a fab diner by Kevin's house in the sticks that we love to go to, so now we have to find a place near the new apartment. Let me tell you, the place we went was NOT it. Not that it was horrible, it just wasn't our normal diner experience. BUT in the same plaza I also got to go look at the puppies. I need a puppy... everytime we go to a pet store, I pick out the one I like and give it a name. But we just can't have one right now. Sad face. Also on Saturday, we went looking for recliners. Kevin's been pining after one for a while now but grossly underestimated how much one would cost. We went one place and found one he liked and it was $1100 + $119 delivery fee. Holy crow! Also, we tried out a Mexican restaurant nearby - it was ok, I got chicken quesadilla (which is my fave) but it needed a little more flavor, perhaps some Franks hot sauce lol. And watched a movie. And grocery shopped so we could make breakfast the next day lol.

Sunday I made pancakes and we hung out for a while, enjoying the cool tv with the lovely digital cable and the extra lovely (and my favorite) DVR. Then I had to go home - I went straight to my grandmother's and helped her get ready for dinner and then everyone was over and we had some yummy-scrumbos pork chops and applesauce and potatoes. Delish! And my aunt was helping me knit. I like to knit but I am slow. I'm telling you, she could have finished my whole scarf in an hour. I'll finish it in 2 months.

BEST PART of this weekend - I read a book, a whole book in like 3 days. It was so so good. Called "Until the Real Thing Comes Along" by Elizabeth Berg. She is a wonderful writer if you like something sweet, with just a little bit of sad added in. I've read another one of her books called "Dream When You're Feeling Blue" set around WWII. Excellent! Seriously, if you're looking for an easy read, try these out. They are excellent.

9.04.2008

Ahh, vacation...

I had a glorious time off! Let's recap, shall we?

Friday - WORK! Seriously, I worked 7:30am-4pm, and then 6pm-2:30am...I am a glutton for punishment.

Saturday - Family picnic. I got a lot of "So when is the big day?" and "Where IS he?" Kevin was coming back from his week of working in Canada, and was not able to come and visit my lovely family. Also, got one of these "You're getting married?! You're younger than me!"...not really sure how to respond to that.
Poor Kevin got stuck at the border for over an hour - apparently they were having some sort of a malfunction with their radiation sensor because about 5 cars in a row got detained and then let go at the same time. Glad everything worked out ok.

Sunday - Spraypainted my ugly lamps. First with a textured paint to cover up the ugly, etched in butterflies. Then with a metallic silver. They turned out very nice, if I do say so myself. I didn't take any pictures, but maybe I will remember this weekend. The only before picture I have is on my cell, but I need to show the difference. I will try and figure it out.
Post spray-painting, I went to my grandmother's house and had a labor day picnic with the other side of the family. Then on to a birthday party for my friend and finally home to bed.

Monday - Woke up super early (5am) and couldn't sleep - my tummy hurt :( so I put on a movie for a while and finally fell back asleep. Woke up for real around 8 and right away showered and got dressed because it was MOVING DAY!! My dad went and talked to the U-Haul people and instead of picking up a 10' truck at 12:15, we got a slightly bigger 14' truck at no extra charge at 10am. So we picked that up, went to my one aunt's house and collected our kitchen table and chairs, and couch. Then back to my house to get the 3 wingback chairs, lamps, side tables, BIG tv, kitchen supplies, and vacuum. My dad went to Kevin's parents house where they added on a mattress and box spring, Kevin's computer, a desk and a night stand. (Kevin had already moved all the stuff from his old apartment to the new place so that was all there). Then we all met up at the new apartment and started lugging things up the stairs. Luckily they were very WIDE so it wasn't too difficult (it was especially not too difficult for me as my dad and Kevin did most of the moving lol). My parents dropped off the truck on their way home and left Kevin and I to set things up. Kevin filled the one bedroom with all his things from the old apartment/room, so that would be his project for another time. Our bedroom wasn't very hard to set up as the only things we have are a mattress and a boxspring lol. Actually, we don't have a TON of stuff, so it didn't really take that long to empty anything or set things up. But its definitely a work in progress. We went out to dinner to celebrate and then to Target to stock up on some things.

Tuesday - Kevin had to work, but I had off so I got a good-bye kiss and got to sleep for a while longer. It was a slow day because I was hanging around the apartment for the gas and electricity to be set up. The guy was supposed to call 20 mins before he was coming, so I was just hanging out all day, with no cable and nothing to do. Actually, we got this shelf thing to put in the bathroom but I got stuck and I didn't want to ruin it, so I just left it for Kevin lol. I met up with Kevin for lunch (still no phone call). I watched approx a million movies. When Kevin came home we finished setting up the shelf. We made dinner and started talking about our "Hard Questions." Then ice cream and yet another trip to Target to get some other things we thought about. Lovely evening with my hunny bunny.

Wednesday - Kevin got up and went to work again, and I slept a while longer. I got up and ready around 8, on the road by 8:30 for home. I had lunch plans with my grandmother, but she had gone out to breakfast so instead we met up with my aunt and her two boys (8 & 6) for ice cream after the first day of school. After that, I went out to dinner with my friend Kara. We had Olive Garden - yummy! and then stopped and got some cardstock so I could start my "wish" cards for the reception. I got a dark green and a light green and used my embosser to put our initial in the corner. It turned out very cute, simple but elegant.
Oh oh oh, last night I watched America's Next Top Model and this is shaping up to be a good season. Very bold personalities. Seriously, Tyra is a complete trainwreck and I can't help myself. I am so glad tv is coming back - there is nothing on in the summer. Also, now that we have DVR at the apartment, I can have Kevin tape my shows and I can watch them when I get a chance later on. Yahoo!

And now, back to work.....blah

Enjoy it!!